Are you moving and feeling overwhelmed? Imagine if you can what it might be like for a teenager…
As much as we like to remember the good times from our youth, you probably also remember how tough it was being a teenager. Moving can be especially traumatic for teenagers. Moving means saying good bye to their friends and social circle which can make them feel sad, confused, angry and resentful. Plus being the “new kid” can difficult.
Here are few tips if you have a teenager that is upset about moving to a new home:
Don’t wait until the last moment to break the news to your teen! You really want to let them know as soon as possible so that they can deal with the idea of moving. By giving your teenager plenty of advance notice about moving, they will have time to say goodbye to their friends.
It is also important that you try to schedule the move around the school calendar. I know this this is impossible sometimes since homes are sold every day of the year. However moving in the summer is much less disruptive to than relocating in the middle of the school year.
Give your teenager plenty of time with their close friends before they leave. I know you will need their help with packing and all of the other stuff that must be dome before you move.
Ensure that your teen can still communicate with their old friends! The technology of today is great for keeping in touch. Make sure that your teen has access to the internet and a cell phone plan with plenty of minutes & data.
The hardest part is going to be AFTER you move. You will have to try to encourage your teen to get out and make new friends. Don’t let them hide in their room.
Moving is always exciting but offers challenges for every member of your family. I talk all the time about the numbers or the economy. But owning a home is more than just the numbers. It is about so much more…
Sometimes Real Estate is NOT About the Numbers
A while back I had a home listed. Really nice listing that was priced right…
Right as I was getting the pictures for the new listing, the seller’s teenaged children came home. I did not know the seller had teenagers and wondered if moving was going to be rough on them.
Because the home was priced right it didn’t take long to get an offer. While discussing the offer with the seller, I asked them if they had thought about the impact of moving on their teenagers.
I said that while this was decent offer, would moving be the best thing for them and their family? I mentioned the children’s ages and how difficult the teenage years can be.
The sale of that home would have meant a big fat juicy check for me but it might NOT be the best thing for the seller. I told the seller that instead of countering, why not sleep on it and think about what is going to be best for them and their family.
The next day when I spoke to the seller, they had decided that moving was NOT going to be the best thing for their family. I told them that I completely understood and that I thought they were making the right decision. I said IF they wanted to sell, then this was the time but that I felt they were doing the right thing.
It wasn’t about the money for the seller. It was about one of those things that money can’t buy.
I am sure that most agents would have encouraged or even pressured the seller to make a deal. However, if you want to make it in real estate, you must put the best interests of your clients ahead of your own.
Sometimes that means you don’t get paid…
At least not in dollars.